One of the most complicated relationships on earth is the one between mother and daughter. It is probably the closest yet most contentious pairing one could have. Both of the Monsters are absolute joys to me…my reason for living, but that doesn’t mean we don’t want to rip each other’s hair out sometime. My biggest parenting challenge lies in this adorable seven year-old body:
I can’t seem to remember a point in Zoe’s life after she started speaking that we didn’t bicker with each other. You see, I am an extreme type A momma; I like my rooms clean, my homework meticulous, and my crafts perfect. Zoe is about as Type B as it gets (just like her daddy;) she is a daydreamer, procrastinator, and true artist.
So how do I deal with being so Type A to little miss B? The real answer: I don’t. This may be a “mommy blog” but sometimes I feel like such a crappy mom it isn’t even funny. I feel like my Type A comes off as hostile, unfun, and aggressive, all just wonderful parenting traits. Not even five minutes before I sat to write this, I was losing my temper big time over the fact that she had misplaced her pencil grip for school.
So what’s a self professed tiger mother to do? I don’t know yet. I know the answer doesn’t lie in her though; Zoe is perfect the way she is. Just because she isn’t exactly like me, doesn’t make her a bad kid; heck, she’s probably better off being the least like me as possible! I need to practice my patience and accepting her for herself and loosening my claw like grip on her individuality. Sure, being a mom is complicated, but I need to start cherishing it more and stop trying to control it.
Have you ever had problems being a good parent to your child because of your differences? Let me know in the comments.